Love 101

Have you ever had difficulty understanding love? In this post I will show you what love is not and in doing so point you towards what love really is. This post will also make your search for a husband or wife easier. 

Love is not a feeling. This is the greatest truth you can learn about love. The idea that you fall in and out of love is the greatest misunderstanding of humanity. In the Book of Hosea we read about how God told the prophet to go love his wife again who was committing adultery and playing the harlot. Hosea obeyed this command of God. (Hosea 3:1-3) 

Imagine yourself in Hosea's shoes. Imagine how he felt thinking about his wife who was cheating on him. We read about how his wife's ungodly behavior resulted in her becoming a slave in the slave market. (Hosea 1:2) She was completely ruined. Truly, he could have left her there to suffer and die and gone about his life. 

But imagine the love that Hosea stirred up within him when he decided to love her again and said: “You shall stay with me many days; you shall not play the harlot, nor shall you have a man—so, too, will I be toward you.” This is love. 

Love is not a feeling but a decision to love your spouse or fiance no matter what. A reason why so many relationship fail is because it is based on feelings (lust) and not on the decision to love.

When you fall in and out of love, it is really is lust and not love to begin with. 

The day you find someone who says to you: I have taken a decision to love you no matter what, that is the day you can be certain that you have found love. And the day you say to someone: I have taken a decision to love you no matter matter, that is the day you can be certain that you truly are in love. 

Love does not require a reason to love. In the Bible we read about how God loved us when were sinners and his enemies. (Romans 5:8-10) In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. (1 John 4:10) You do not need to have a reason to love someone. You might not approve certain things that are wrong about your spouse or fiance but their shortcomings cannot be a reason for the love to die out. Like I said earlier, love is decision and you must love because it is your Nature to love in Christ and not because you have a reason too. 

Truly, God had no good reason to love us but he still did and that is what true love is. 

If you want to get married you do not have to fall in love. Stop waiting for the feeling. If you are a man, find someone whom you want to love no matter what and if you are a woman find someone who is willing to love you no matter what. It is profoundly simple. 

Love has to be learnt because it is not a feeling but a decision. (Titus 2:4) Jesus said: A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13:34-35) You can only give what you already have. To love as Jesus loved you need to first experience the love of God towards you. 

Most people do not understand love because they are part of a religion that stresses on works and on how God responds to them based on how good or bad they are. 

Religion cannot teach you love. It does a poor job explaining love because it does not understand the love of God in the first place.

What you need is a relationship with God through Jesus Christ and not a Religion, to understand what true love really is. (Stop, and thing about this for a while) 

Listen to As I have Loved you by Andrew Wommack: http://www.awmi.net/extra/audio/1077